The Swingers

As in life, swinging is made up of an eclectic mix of people. So I thought you might like a snapshot of some of those that we've met so far. Just out of interest, we've played with five of these couples, but only written about three. I'll let you work out which ones...........

Just to clarify, I've assumed that all the men in this list are straight. Although I could be wrong, as it doesn't appear to be readily acceptable within the lifestyle yet. I have only met one who was completely open about it.

The term 'bi just for show', relates to women who aren't really bi-sexual at all, but put on a show by kissy kissy rubbing titties! And no, I don't like these fakes much, they're a waste of my time and aren't usually any good at what they pretend to do. Harsh, but true, I'd rather they just came clean and stopped the wooden acting.












Steve & Marie (full swap, she's bi just for show) 45 and 39, married, been together for 7 years and have three teenage children by previous relationships. They've been swinging for 2 years and originally met people separately, but jealousy got in the way, now they just meet people at clubs. She doesn't really want to swing at all, but he does. When she told him her feelings, he basically told her to like it, or lump it. Love him or leave him. She says he's the love of her life, so she continues, getting immensely drunk each time. Swinging nearly split them up. I think it still might...........

Nick & Vicky, (not sure swap) 34 and 36, married, been together for 10 years and have three children under ten, one with special needs. They were brand new to swinging, visiting a club for the first time and only intended on soft swapping. They hooked up with an experienced full swap couple and went all the way with them. They've now left the lifestyle for a while, taking time out to reassess - and no, we weren't the full swap couple, we wouldn't do that to anyone.

Deb, (full swap, bi-curious) 45, married for 25 years, with three children in their 20's. She's been swinging for 5 years and meets her lover at swinging clubs, they work together, her husband thinks she's away on business. She ended up spending the majority of the night with another man, a stranger. Her lover left early, alone.

Shaun, (full swap) 36 married for 7 years with two children under 5. He's been swinging for 5 years with Deb above. He spent most of the night wandering around aimlessly on his own.

Kev & Kate, (full swap, she's bi-curious) 31 and 28 have been together for 4 years. They both need to snort coke before they swing.

Steve & Claire, (half full swap, she's bi just for show) 45 and 35, married and have been together for 12 years, they have two children under 10. They've been swinging for 7 years. He doesn't really partake in other women, doesn't even get hard. She fucks anyone and everyone, enjoys gangbangs, dogging, meeting separately and sometimes has unprotected sex. They meet people at clubs and via the internet. They are both completely happy with their scenario.

Jack & Valerye, (full swap, she's bi-sexual) 46 and 36, married for 12 years with two children in their late teens. They've been swinging for 2 years. They go to swinging clubs, meet couples locally and via the internet, and go on swinging holidays. She will never play in the club and he finds it hard to sustain an erection with any woman other than his wife.

Liam & Nicky (soft swap, she's bi-sexual) Young, mid 20's. Been together for 7 years. They swing about 7 times a year, in clubs only. She enjoys the ladies and giving multiple blow jobs. She seems to get more action than him, but he enjoys watching.

Bunny, (soft swap, she's bi just for show) mid 20's with one child under 10. Her husband lives abroad and encourages her to visit clubs alone. She preys on couples, playing with the women and teasing the men. She has a habit of upsetting women by being curt and somewhat rude. I'm unsure if it's intentional or not.

Pat & Kerry, (full swap, she's bi-sexual) 45 and 38, been together 2 years and swinging for one. She's incredibly driven by sex and very bi-sexual. He introduced her to swinging and rather wishes he hadn't now. She is incredibly jealous and finds it hard to see him enjoying another person, yet insists on being allowed to meet people alone. He just tags along really, accepting the monster he's created. They meet people at clubs and via the internet.

The Clique, (full and soft swappers, all the women are bi-sexual) age range between 26 and 46. A group of swingers who meet frequently. They all openly take drugs and lots of them, ecstasy, amphetamine, ketamine, poppers............. They party hard, but not necessarily play at all (probably too wrecked!). We didn't stick around to find out anymore about this crowd.

Mr & Mrs S, (full swap, she's bi-sexual) 36 and 38, been together 12 years and married for 7. They have 5 children, a mixture of teens and tots. They've been swinging for nearly a year. She's into it more than him. They meet people in clubs, parties and have just begun dating via the internet. She loves the ladies and watching her husband with other women, he just loves to fuck. They seem calm and grounded - I quite like this pair!!

Looking through the list I get the feeling that all is not well with many of these couples. Everyone in the lifestyle seems incredibly protective of it, chanting about how it 'Brings them closer together' and 'Makes their partnership stronger'. In parrot fashion, they relay how it can 'Enhance a strong relationship', but 'End a weak one'. But I do wonder how much truth is spoken. I mean, every time a swinging relationship ends, these people will blame its demise on the weakness of the relationship and not a consequence of the 'lifestyle'. But I'm not so sure, and how will anyone ever prove it, either way? Impossible I think. Which came first, the chicken or the egg, the swinging or the problem?

If you have any hang ups, you're told to stay away from it. Does anyone never have a shadow of a doubt, is anything 100%? The only thing guaranteed in this life, is that you're going to die! Swingers seem to be playing with fire, each in their own special way. Us included. Fueling obsessions, wants, needs or hanging on for dear life, waiting for the journey to end. Will Mr S. and I survive the burns, learn to love the ride in a masochistic way, or, will we just crash and burn, turning to ashes? Whatever the outcome, we have our eyes wide open and trust us, you'll be witness to every moment.